Guest Blogger: Darla DeMorrow, Certified Professional Organizer ®.
Do you think of yourself as an organized person? There are at least 5 ways you can build your confidence as an organized person…even if you think you aren’t.
There is no one who knows your life better than you do.
Do you live in a house, drive a car (or have some public transit pass or a working bike), and generally make it to school or work every day? You are ahead of the game already. These are not trivial accomplishments. Give yourself a pat on the back. You figured out how to get to this point in your life, and you will continue to improve your life every day!
Just do it.
Did you have your keys in hand when you walked out the door today? If not, did you know where to find your backup set of keys? Good. You have some sort of system for keeping track of your keys. SYSTEMS are important, because they let us go on autopilot for the little things, so our brains can do the heavy-duty decision making. You might have more complex systems in place (like making sure there are Epi-pens in every purse and backpack you own if you need them, or having a way that you like to process incoming mail, or how you check the back door every night before bed to make sure it is locked), but these are all systems, and YOU designed them, so you can design more to help you every day. Don’t wait to organize until you find the perfect system. Start where you are. Keep systems that work, and change up ones that don’t. Just do it.
Create hospitality for someone else.
Organizing isn’t about being neat, or clean, or perfect like you see in magazines. No, it’s really about being able to find what you need when you need it. It’s about being comfortable opening the front door when a neighbor rings the bell. It’s about being able to find your passport quickly when a chance to visit a foreign country comes up. It’s about being able to enjoy your time with other human beings instead of being tired, ashamed, or guilty. Once you feel that you can be there for your friends, say to yourself, “I am organized,” and go do something else with my blessing (even if there are dust bunnies under the dresser).
Take a class or workshop and learn from someone else.
You know how it is. Sometimes your kids can hear you say something a hundred times, but when their friend says it, all of the sudden it clicks. Sometimes an expert can solve the problem for you in a few minutes. Sometimes you just need to see how another seeker has solved her problem in an simplified, seat of the pants, “why didn’t I think of that?” way. Where better to find these people than in a class or group?
Keep other people on track.
You probably are the one who calls for household repair appointments, made the kids lunch this morning (or made sure that their lunch is paid for), checked the calendar to see which family member has to be where later today, checked the fridge and pantry for inventory, and have some vague or clear idea of what’s for dinner tonight. Those are very complex decision making processes. You might also be holding down your own business or a side-gig. And chances are you are simultaneously making plans for summer camp, or whatever the next break from school is. Think back to when you were 21. You probably had to get yourself to school and maybe to work, and that was about it. You’ve grown over the years, and you are really good at keeping a lot of things humming. Just because something doesn’t get done every now and then doesn’t make you bad at organizing…it just means you have a full plate.
In our busy lives, it is often easier to focus on what we aren’t doing, what we feel stressed about, or what isn’t perfect in our day. But if you take time to really think about these five areas of your life, you might realize that you are, in fact, very organized. Take a virtual pat on the back from me, and start your day more confident tomorrow.